Trigger warning: subjects of sexual abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting This blog isn’t about vengeance or anger. It’s not about sexual assault. It’s not even about consent. My emotions are too charged to touch those topics right now. This blog is about how gifted humans are at blaming ourselves for things…

You know that feeling of introspective stillness that happens when you’re able to look at a traumatic event with a bit of distance and clarity? I woke up this morning feeling ready to talk, so let’s talk. Dating Consultants are People Too Being a dating consultant is weird, because I have this unreasonable expectation of…

Bread crumbs. They’re delicious crunchy bits of carby goodness. They enhance basically any recipe, they can be used to manipulate small winged creatures into being your friend, and they’re superb for abandoning small German children in witch-infested forests. …

I’ve heard the phrase “fear is a powerful motivator” a million times… And sure, it can be. If you’re trapped in a burning building, the fear of being burned alive can push you into crawling out the window to scale the outside wall. The fear of choking to death will…

Sometimes I feel like being a dating consultant is kinda like being a Medium. I can’t fight the evil spirits for you. I just do my best to warn you and sometimes I have to watch you get eaten for lunch. …

So you’re staring at your dating profile and wondering what you’re doing wrong. Probably lots of things, but one of them is almost certainly that your profile is riddled with qualifiers. What’s a qualifier, you may be asking? Well bud, it’s a big ole firing squad having a go at…

“To Err is Human”, or at least that’s what Alexander Pope said. Sure, he was one of the greatest poets of all time, but he was also kind of a jerk and he knew nothing about online dating. When it comes to dating apps, “To Err is to buy a…

I have Covid19, and it sucks. My whole body aches like the morning after a 16hr workout, the trek from my bedroom to the kitchen feels like hiking, and 100% of the time I’ve gotten a shower I’ve ended up sitting on the floor with my head between my legs…

Racial preference… it’s a loaded phrase that comes with a lot of strong emotion. Some people believe it’s based in racism, while others argue it’s a normal part of attraction. Personally, I’m in the unspoken third camp of people who tend to date all over the spectrum of the rainbow…