Apr 12, 2022How Important Are Social Photos on Dating Apps?Ok, so you’ve got your profile exactly how you want it. You’re looking fly as hell in your pics. Your bio looks like it was written by an…Dating App6 min readDating App6 min read
Mar 25, 2022Something Bad Happened To MeTrigger warning: subjects of sexual abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting This blog isn’t about vengeance or anger. It’s not about sexual assault. It’s not even about consent. My emotions are too charged to touch those topics right now. This blog is about how gifted humans are at blaming ourselves for things…Sexual Assault9 min readSexual Assault9 min read
Nov 1, 2021How to Survive a Broken HeartYou know that feeling of introspective stillness that happens when you’re able to look at a traumatic event with a bit of distance and clarity? I woke up this morning feeling ready to talk, so let’s talk. Dating Consultants are People Too Being a dating consultant is weird, because I have this unreasonable expectation of…Breakups11 min readBreakups11 min read
Jun 23, 2021Dating Terms for Noobs: Part 1. BreadcrumbingBread crumbs. They’re delicious crunchy bits of carby goodness. They enhance basically any recipe, they can be used to manipulate small winged creatures into being your friend, and they’re superb for abandoning small German children in witch-infested forests. …Dating4 min readDating4 min read
Jun 23, 2021Overcoming FearI’ve heard the phrase “fear is a powerful motivator” a million times… And sure, it can be. If you’re trapped in a burning building, the fear of being burned alive can push you into crawling out the window to scale the outside wall. The fear of choking to death will…Online Dating3 min readOnline Dating3 min read
Nov 30, 2020How To Maintain Self-Respect In a World Full of NarcissistsSometimes I feel like being a dating consultant is kinda like being a Medium. I can’t fight the evil spirits for you. I just do my best to warn you and sometimes I have to watch you get eaten for lunch. So, welcome to my instructional guide for how to…Narcissism4 min readNarcissism4 min read
Aug 3, 2020The Biggest Mistake You’re Making on Dating Apps: Part 2So you’re staring at your dating profile and wondering what you’re doing wrong. Probably lots of things, but one of them is almost certainly that your profile is riddled with qualifiers. What’s a qualifier, you may be asking? Well bud, it’s a big ole firing squad having a go at…Online Dating6 min readOnline Dating6 min read
Jul 10, 2020The Biggest Mistake You’re Making on Dating Apps“To Err is Human”, or at least that’s what Alexander Pope said. Sure, he was one of the greatest poets of all time, but he was also kind of a jerk and he knew nothing about online dating. When it comes to dating apps, “To Err is to buy a…Dating Advice5 min readDating Advice5 min read
Jun 8, 20203 Things I Learned from Having CoronavirusI have Covid19, and it sucks. My whole body aches like the morning after a 16hr workout, the trek from my bedroom to the kitchen feels like hiking, and 100% of the time I’ve gotten a shower I’ve ended up sitting on the floor with my head between my legs…Coronavirus5 min readCoronavirus5 min read
May 15, 2020Racial Preference vs RacismRacial preference… it’s a loaded phrase that comes with a lot of strong emotion. Some people believe it’s based in racism, while others argue it’s a normal part of attraction. Personally, I’m in the unspoken third camp of people who tend to date all over the spectrum of the rainbow…Dating Advice For Men4 min readDating Advice For Men4 min read