3 Steps To Keep the Conversation Going When You Can’t Meet In Person Because of the Gosh Darned World Pandemic

Most of my clients since the pandemic are struggling with conversations that lag or die out because they’re unable to transition from the dating app to an actual date. The struggle is understandable. It’s really hard to maintain a dynamic conversation via text for a long period of time. The conversation eventually falters, neither party knows what to say next, and the budding connection just sort-of dies. It sucks, but it’s a familiar reality to most of the people who are trying to date during this unique circumstance. It doesn’t have to be that way though. I even wrote each step down, just for you. I call it the STAIRCASE OF LOVE. Just joking, I don’t really call it that. It doesn’t have a name, but it’s really fucking useful. Here we go:

  1. Build her interest in you by focusing on what’s important to her and then asking questions about it.

Does she love skiing? Ask her about it- but do it in a personal way. Ask her questions she’ll have an emotional response to. You’re trying to build a connection with her and create a sense of familiarity.

  • ❌ “Where did you go on your last skiing trip?” If you ask a close-ended question, you will probably get a close-ended answer. Avoid questions that can be answered in one or two words.

2. Transition off the app

  • ❌ DON’T ask until you’ve built chemistry. Wait until she’s engaged in the conversation and clearly into you. If you try to transition too quickly, she won’t be invested enough to say yes, and she probably won’t say no- she’ll just ghost you.

3. Ask Her Out On A Virtual Date

  • ❌ Texting is not a date. It’s a great way to develop some chemistry, get some witty banter in there, but it’s hard to keep a text conversation going for a long period of time and it takes a lot of work to keep it interesting.

Virtual dating doesn’t have to be soul-crushing. The current state of our world isn’t ideal, but humans are pretty adaptable. Don’t get stuck in the same pattern, don’t try to carry on a text conversation for 3 months and expect it to end with a date, and don’t be too stubborn to adjust to your surroundings. You’ve got this… and if you don’t, you’ve got me. Hit me up and I’ll get you sorted ;)

If you’d like to book an appointment to improve your dating profile, learn how to build chemistry, or get a gift card for a friend, hit me up. If you’re on the fence, check out my testimonials!






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Advice by Chloe

Dating consultant who got her start on Reddit. I write about dating and relationships and I’m always trying to make dating easier for dudes. AdvicebyChloe.com